The Torah commands (Debarim 24:5) that when a man marries a new wife, he must not go out to the army, but must be free for his home for one year, and gladden his wife. Not going to the army not only means not in the front lines, but not even in the rear to supply water and food, or repair the roads for the army (Mas. Sotah 44a).
The Meqor Hayyim mentions that in view of the fact that the separation from the family is very difficult for the newlywed bride, added to the fact that she is marrying someone she doesn't know so well, the Rabbis instituted the seven days of banquets (Sheba' Berakhoth) for the couple, so that they can spend time together. It also has the power of creating the initial emotional bond.
The requirement to be together for the year is based on the same idea, so that the husband can gladden his wife. The fact that the husband can not even have a non-combative, but merely supply role in the army appears to be because when a person is under the command of others his spirit is not free to gladden his wife.
(See Meqor Hayyim vol. 5, ch. 238)
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