The episode of Dina, the daughter of Ya'aqob Abinu and Leah Immenu, serves as a springboard to explore the topic of modesty and self respect. The Abarbanel, in his commentary on Parashath Wayyishlah, stresses the fact that Dina was, in fact, as modest as her righteous mother Leah and her father Ya'aqob. We are told that Leah Immenu would not leave her home even when taking care of the cattle, while her father, Ya'aqob is known for "one who dwells in tents". He states, that Dina's intention was "to look over the daughter's land" (Bereshith 34, 1). Meaning, because she was the only girl in her household, she wanted to see other girls' clothing and jewelry.
Other commentators, however, interpret her behavior as an expression of as a lack of modesty. The Midrash explains that the word "Lir-oth", to see, can also be read as "Le' raoth", to be seen. Implying that Dina went out adorned to be seen.
Mode of dress and general appearance are of great importance to any woman, and so they should be. We must make a conscious effort to look beautiful in the presence of our husbands, inside our homes. It is a crucial component in building close relationships with our husbands. At the same time, every single one of us should be aware of the immeasurable impact we have on others. We are constantly seen by other women and examined by our friends. The way we dress affects the decision of what other women will wear. The unspoken statement of "if it's good for her, it's good for me" must not be ignored.
My dear friends, I hope and pray that each and every single one of us will find the inner strength to raise ourselves to new levels of modesty. Each small step higher that we take will have a ripple effect on thousands. This area, though challenging, is our unique territory. May we each find and reveal our true beauty.
