I recently met the children of a good friend. Unfortunately, they lost her at a young age. Together we exchanged some memories, one of which, I would like to share with you. The children proudly told me how pretty their mother was, and showed me a picture of hers which was taken in her youth. They then showed me a more recent picture, with my friend, the way I remembered her.
Over the years, the family has become observant, which was evident in the two totally different pictures of my friend. The more recent one, obviously showed a picture of a lady dressed according to Jewish guidelines of modesty. Her children told me how their mother reacted when she saw both of the pictures. She said, pointing at the more recent picture: "In my eyes, this is where I really look beautiful!".
Many of us mothers, often question how to instill in our daughters the desire and will to look like a Jewish princess. Mothers often ask what to do in order to develop in our daughters the pride and love of modesty. Perhaps we can learn from my dear friend. We all know the importance of being a role model for our daughters, but there is more to it. When our daughters sense that we are happy and proud to be the daughters of a King, they will express a similar excitement. If, on the other hand, they feel how burdensome we feel about it, there is a good chance that their reaction to modesty will be even more challenging.
It is perhaps easier to be a cook's daughter but if we had a choice, wouldn't we all run to be the king's daughter?